In a book I read long ago, the heroine was married pretty soon, and commented on his new life with sadness and bitterness about the freedom they had never enjoyed since she left a family to enter immediately into a 'other.
In fact, to enjoy a bit 'of his liberty, his life before getting married or going to live with someone, it would be healthy to spend some' time by "only".
Surrounded by friends, acquaintances, even relatives, but living under one roof different from the parental, within the walls various.
Today, this also requires sacrifices greater than that required for the coexistence within their household of origin. Economically
means "to look for the cold bed."
Why live in hardship just to "get rid" of his own family?!
On the other hand, continue to live under the same roof as their parents may mean, sometimes sacrificing their lives, their lives to accommodate them.
The problem becomes serious when people who should love you, protect you, comfort you and give you free, you take it for granted.
They assume that you are there for them. Maybe even take it to him because you need them son. Nor have concerns that you may need to live your life in peace without every single day to say "yes" to everything they ask.
Indeed, they give you so much for granted that the first time that you dare to say "no" began to accuse him of being a lazy, irresponsible, a lazy, selfish.
When you arrive at these points is the case for taking control of their lives and begin to make people understand that we live around the reality of things must change.
ridarsi must respect and freedom they deserve.
must take up its value and, if necessary, "whip" in his face to the people we care about most.
Above all, we must realize that if you want a healthy life and different from what it has always had it, do not expect that to change people, but we need to change the situations, contexts and environments.
All this to say ..............
When you "put on" family, never "put on" too close to existing households, especially if those are your core!
